Monday, February 6, 2012

Hate Religion but Love Jesus?

            If you are a Youtube or Facebook fan, you probably noticed Jefferson Bethke’s viral video, “Why I Hate Religion, But Love Jesus.” In the video Bethke contrasts the true wine of Jesus with religion’s vinegar. So, for example, Bethke raps:

Now back to the point, one thing is vital to mention
How Jesus and religion are on opposite spectrum
See one’s the work of God, but one’s a man made invention
See one is the cure, but the other’s the infection
See because religion says do, Jesus says done
Religion says slave, Jesus says son
Religion puts you in bondage, while Jesus sets you free
Religion makes you blind, but Jesus makes you see

            Bethke isn’t the first person to say or sing this sort of song. Its most common—and more ecumenical—formulation goes something like this: “I’m spiritual, not religious.” The people who say this sort of thing have—as the Ecclesiastes 3:11 puts it—eternity set in their hearts—they’re spiritual. But they don’t have the church, or synods, or Christian or Jewish or Muslim institutions, or preachers or priests or tithing or Sunday School in their lives. You see, they’re not religious.

            Spiritual, but not religious. I think they mean something like they feel good about God but lousy about the church. They think God is in the business of loving them, and they’ll take that. But they think the church is full of hullaballoo and hucksterism, rules and regulations, sinners and hypocrites, and so they give it a wide berth.

            It will come as a surprise to no one that this sort of language irritates me. But that’s beside the point. However I feel, it is important for me to understand and empathize with this outlook because it is the void into which I preach. Spiritual but not religious is the Siren song that pulls at everyone in my congregation.

            So what to answer people when I hear this? Well, I’m not hip like Jefferson Bethke. But I think my analogy makes sense. Think infrastructure.

            Imagine the Town of Cobourg or Port Hope without infrastructure but lots of neighborliness. Imagine Northumberland County without roads or a power grid or sewers or schools, or bridges—but lots of civic mindedness. Imagine your home without a foundation or furnace or plumbing or natural gas, but lots of love. It wouldn’t work very well, would it? The truth is, we need infrastructure—good infrastructure built to last, dependable, and safe—if we’re going to have any neighbors at all, or a civic life, or a place where it is safe to bring up families in love. As much as we prioritize neighborliness, civic mindedness, and love—they need all kinds of infrastructure support if they’re going to flourish.

            At its best, that is exactly what religion is to spirituality. Religion is spirituality’s infrastructure. And as much as we don’t like to see sewers or be reminded that there is a power grid, we often don’t want to bother with religion either. The truth, however, is that we don’t have much choice. Spirituality needs religion—spirituality needs teachers to point a new generation to its ideals, spirituality needs buildings where communities can learn about and practice costly love, spirituality needs accountability so that it doesn’t drift off into Hallmark sentimentalism, and spirituality needs holy texts so that we don’t make it up as we go while ignoring the wisdom of the ages.

            Of course—infrastructure can crumble. Roads need rebuilding. Even the best new sewers eventually become old and need to be cleaned out of roots and obstructions. Nuclear plants need refitting. It takes wise citizens and good leaders to ensure that infrastructure is up to snuff and supports our flourishing. Similarly, not all religion is up to snuff. Religions need renewal and fixing and reorganization from time to time. They are not perfect, not by a long shot.

            But deep spirituality needs the best of religion. And at its best religion helps organize the spiritually minded to act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with God.


  1. And even the church needs infrastructure, which is why we have the church order! :-)

  2. Have you seen Shaio Chong's essay on the same video?

  3. I think the challenge is to recognize the limits of our structures, especially when they stand in the way of meeting Jesus.

  4. I'm someone who used to love the church - was baptized as a little girl, confirmed, married, and had my own children baptized there. I served as a women's leader. I felt safe there. I belonged. But then I was abused by my pastor (sexual harassment), and the church hierarchy actually winked at it. Elie Wiesel wrote, "Let us remember: What hurts the victim most is not the cruely of the oppressor, but the silence of the bystander." I have begun to see the church - certainly my denomination - as both oppressor and silent bystander. With fear and trepidation, we changed denominations and began regularly attending another church. Eventually, I told the new pastor what had happened to me in the other church, and he assured me I was "safe" in this new church. Yet within 6 months, he resigned due to clergy sexual abuse of a woman in the congregation. I want so much to believe that I can continue - some day - to love the church, but I simply fear it. I have lost trust in pastors, and this has really screwed with my faith in Jesus, too. My last two pastors and the churches they served have been stumbling blocks; how does one get past that? *sigh*

    1. I don't know how you get past what you have described. It is absolutely horrible to have trust betrayed once--but twice? I'm so very sad about your story. I won't -- can't -- tell you to try again. In the meantime, I do hope and pray that you can experience Jesus' very different and revolutionary attitude towards women, and that you find your own way (perhaps with family and friends, or in a small group) of faithfully following him.


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